Hey guys, Cary’s here.
It’s been a while since the last time I write. Well, bee is so excited with her
pregnancy. I remember the first time she tells us about the news, we’re on a blackberry
group chat and she was like giving us this blushed face emoticon and making us
wondered what happen. HAHA! But anyway, we’re so excited for Bee and hope for
the very best for her and the little baby^^
As you know I got
married last June. I was waiting 'til I got all my wedding photos and I’m running down options of what I will write, not gonna
blab around my whole wedding details since it might get a little overdue by now. LOL. So, I’m gonna write down some tips for you beautiful bride-to-be's since we got
all the stress from planning a wedding!
At the beginning of my
wedding planning process, I spent so much time on researching about wedding,
the traditional wedding, the modern day, etc just to get a basic idea. I mean
we ‘re all been to a wedding but it is the first time that we’re actually
getting married, doh! So I wanna know more. It may be good for you to actually
have a basic understanding of the tradition especially if you or you partner
come from a traditional background.
Tips #1. Let’s talk.
Sit with your partner
and talk about what you like your wedding to be. What you and your partner’s
family expected on the wedding, is there any kind of tradition of what you
need/must/mustn’t do at the wedding. Let’s make everything clear so both party
will live happily ever after.
Tips #2. Money &
Budget.
Well, by now you
should have decide who will pay for the wedding. Is it the grooms family, both
families, or the bride&groom themselves. But either way, you need to have a
budget planning on your wedding. It’s a good idea to write down every details
of your wedding. Ie, venue, decoration, bridal, etc. and put down your budget
for each, if you have no idea how much the usual price, have a quick research
on how much each item should cost and decide are you going to pay lower or
higher. You don’t want to overbudget yourself, coz if you don’t have the budget
in writing you will think you can add everything and at the end of the day
you’re paying too much. Well, unless if you have tree that produces money and you're swimming in diamonds and golds.
Tips #3. Don’t
over think it!
As the bride-to-be, I
understand you will spend hours and hours on internet or magazine flicking
through wedding photos, details, etc. DON'T THINK TOO MUCH! Everything will look
good, will look pretty, page by page it will look prettier than what you chose
yesterday. It happened! I stressed myself out because of this. I choose how my
wedding dress looks like, I love the design so I took it to the designer and ask
her to design similar for me. I
regret it the next day, coz I saw a better design T^T that happen to every
detail of my wedding, so my tips is. Don’t think too much, everything will look
better than what you choose! It’s just the stressed before the wedding. So
breathe in, breathe out. RELAX. You already know what you want back in your
head, so don’t poison your brain by thinking too much. If it's happen, stop whatever you're doing stop looking at the wedding magazine and internet. Seeing too much can add more stress, pictures can be deceiving.
Tips #4. You can’t
always have what you want.
This is how budgeting
helps, as the bride we usually want something out of the ordinary. We want our
wedding to be magical, unforgettable, better than our friends. But we just
can’t have it all! So please be reasonable. You can have a beautiful wedding
without paying unreasonable amount of money by ordering some costume design
bejewelled wedding shoes from Iceland (this is random, but Iceland kinda pop-up when I write this. LOL)
Tips #5. It’s your BIG
day, Smile and enjoy the ride.
This it, after months
of planning your wedding day is arrived. Things can go wrong! But whatever happens
on the big day of yours! SMILE! Enjoy it, you’re the king and queen of the day!
This is the happiest day of your life! Whatever happen, be happy. You don’t
want to ruin your wedding photo. Relax and enjoy the ride! It’s not about the
big beautiful wedding, it’s about the life after this. You will go through so
much after this day, make a beautiful story. Perfect wedding celebration does
not mean a perfect marriage life. Even if you have the simplest wedding, you
can always have a happiest marriage from here after.
Hope this simple tips
will help you to relax. Share your worries to your partner/best friends/maid-of-honor,
it will help you relax a bit. One more thing, Men are designed not-to fussed about the whole wedding thing, so if
you keep on nagging them about wedding wedding wedding they’re not gonna like it - just fyi. So go out with
your besties, have a chat and you’ll be find it’s not the end of the world if
you can’t have those wedding shoes or the wedding ring is over your budget or you're dream wedding venue is over booked!
It’s not always about that, it’s about living a life together from this day
forward for better or worse, through tears and joy, through sickness and in
health. Til death do you part.
So, cheers to a new life as husband and wife! I put some of my wedding photos, hope you enjoy. This is the Holy Matrimony Part and a simple dinner reception in Bali, we will be having another reception in Bandung this December :)
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THANK GOD for the beautiful weather on our wedding day! |
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The wedding cake designed to look like our invitation (oh! should have put them up. will upload the invitation later *wink*) |
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Noah's Ark Chapel |
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Vivi as my maid-of-honor ;) |
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where's my Groom!! |
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pretty Vivi |
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view from the bedroom villa |
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how cute is my husband's nephew holding my mom-in-law dress, he's afraid that it gets dirty >.< |
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Dad's walk me down the aisle *teary eyes* |
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you may kiss the bride :-* |
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my Pandora world (from Avatar. LOL) |
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this is the only picture I took with Bee that day. Sorry bee :( |
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My dearest friends who come all the way from Perth to attend my wedding. xoxo |
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awkward first dance. hahah |
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Fireworks! |
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our WO, thank you for making our wedding wonderful :) |
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the Mr & Mrs. |
Hope you enjoy and have a nice day. xxo
Love ♥
Cary